KINK & FETISHES PART 5

H Is for Humiliation

Not all BDSM acts are physical. “Intense language as a use of force can be just as intense, or even more intense, as consensually degrading physical sensations, such as impact play,” Horn says. A common example of humiliation is name-calling and verbal abuse. One of the most common misconceptions about humiliation play is that it's antifeminist. But the truth is, many feminists enjoy being called names such as “bitch,” “slut,” or “whore” in bed—your kinks are not your values. In a patriarchal world where women have long been told sex is not for pleasure, addressing what gets you off—especially if it’s non-traditional like humiliation—and then engaging it can be a powerful way to take control of your sexuality. As always, discuss humiliation beforehand and keep it consensual. Your partner may be okay with being called a "slut" but not a "bitch" so be sure to define your boundaries.

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all excerpts courtesy of From A to Z, A List of Kinks and Fetishes You Should Know About

By Angie Jones

EFG FETISHES AND KINKS PART 4

E is for Electrostimulation

Electrostimulation involves using the power of electricity—aka getting an electric shock—for kinky, sexy fun. Obviously, getting shocked can be dangerous, so electrostimulation begins to get into another type of kink called "edge play," which refers to risky BDSM behaviour that runs the potential of doing actual bodily harm. Electrostimulation is part of CBT ("cock and ball torture") sessions in which a domme shocks her sub’s genitals by rigging them to electrical contraptions—typically either a wand (see "Z" on this list) or a system that stimulates nerve endings called a "transcutaneous electrical nerve endings stimulation" unit—that can be purchased from specialty kink shops. This is one of those preferences for which you need to be extremely careful to take the correct safety precautions, use an ironclad safe word, and obtain continuous, enthusiastic consent.

F Is for Foot Fetishism

Foot fetishes are one of the most common fetishes out there, especially for heterosexual men. Someone with a foot fetish is literally turned on by feet—thinking about them, touching them, seeing them—and could potentially get off on everything feet. They often want to engage in foot worship, in which they treat their partner’s foot like a holy object: kissing, caressing, and massaging it. So even if you don't have a foot fetish, having a partner with one can be extremely enjoyable as it means there are potentially foot massages galore in store for you. But like all kinks, foot fetishes exist on a spectrum. Humiliation can also play a strong role in a foot fetish: The fetishist may want feet shoved in their face and mouth, or to have their partner walk all over them, touting how filthy their feet are and how pathetic the fetishist is to enjoy such an activity. Other foot fetish activities include giving pedicures and smelling the feet or shoes that said feet reside in throughout the day.

G Is for Gagging

Gagging refers to lightly choking on an object to the point of making gagging sounds. Often people with penises will get off on their partner gagging on them—and the knowledge that they’re big enough to induce gagging noises. Likewise, the partner going downtown may enjoy having something thrust far enough down their throat that they start to gag. It doesn't necessarily take a giant object to induce gagging—something smaller can do the trick too. However, if gagging becomes uncomfortable or if you feel like you’re going to throw up (if that's not something you want to do), you should stop at any point you feel even a little bit off. Remember, kink is all about continuous consent and what makes you feel your sexiest.

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All excerpts above courtesy of Angie Jones found in

From A to Z, A List of Kinks and Fetishes You Should Know About

By Angie Jones

KINKS AND FETISHES PART 3 D

Hi Everybody, so we are still discussing the A-Z of kinks and fetishes and today we will look at D so buckle up and lets start with D.

D is for Dominance, now we all here the words BDSM and think bondage and discipline but Dominance can be stand alone.

Dominance is all about consensual power exchange. In my opinion it is kink as it's finest. We all have our own particular self beliefs in regard to whether your a dominant personality or a submissive one when we function in our external environments, but in sexual play it can be quite exciting to either relinquish control or be a master of control depending on your preference and dominance is a way in which to explore this.

Dominance is a way in which a person allows their partner to dominate while the submissive well defer to the dominant partners wishes it is lots of fun but it must be a consensual agreement between two people. All though it has been quite talked about in recent times just remember 50 shades of grey is just a movie and as with all books it is based in fiction the reality is rarely to such an extreme. Stay tuned next week when we look at E it will be electrifying right on time for Halloween.

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From A to Z, A List of Kinks and Fetishes You Should Know About

By Angie Jones